Pregnancy has all sorts of shifts – your body shifts to accommodate your growing baby, your emotions shift because of, well hello, hormones, and your overall thoughts shift as well. After all, you are going to be adding a new family member in just a few short months. With a 2 year old already running around the house, my thoughts this pregnancy compared to last are definitely a bit different. I thought it would be fun to write out my thoughts right now on adding another baby to the family. Then, in a few months, write another post once the baby has already arrived, to see how thoughts have changed.
How do you love two as much as one
I feel like every mom struggles with this. Before having a baby, you know you will love him or her, but you really can’t fathom how much until they actually arrive. Then, once the baby is here, you can’t even imagine life without them. Your love grows so so deep for that little being in such a short amount of time. How can you love two little kids the same as you do one?
How is Grant going to adapt
This is without a doubt my biggest concern. Grant is the center of our world right now. Everything revolves around him, whether it is nap time, noise level in the house, what we do for fun – it’s 100% the Grant show. That is about to change drastically in 5 short weeks. I am nervous as to how he is going to adapt to not being our one and only little guy. There will be times when I know I will have to tell him to wait while I comfort a screaming baby, or times daddy may have to do bed time instead of mommy. That is a hard pill for me to swallow. I am hoping he goes in stride with all of the changes. He is such a well mannered 2 year old and really hasn’t been giving us that terrible two dose we’ve all heard about. He is always happy and I am really hoping he stays that way.
How different this new little guy will be
The only baby I’ve ever been around is grant. I know his mannerisms, his sleeping patterns, and his happy go lucky attitude. Will this new baby be similar or completely different? I am preparing myself for the polar opposite, since we were so fortunate with Grant when he was a Infant. He slept well, was always happy, and just always lit up the day. I hope the new little guy is similar, but I am surely not counting on it.
Who will he look like
I am so curious about this one! Will he look like Grant with blonde hair and blue eyes, or will he have dark eyes like his daddy? I selfishly want to see another blue eyed baby, but that’s just because it will be a piece of me! Being blessed with only boys up to this point makes me want them to look even more like me – as completely silly as I know this sounds.
Will life return to our new normal quickly
Since we’ve been through the infant stage before, will we adapt quicker this time around, or will we need even more help than before? I am very fortunate this pregnancy in that I am able to take off 12 weeks after he is born. With Grant, I got a new job at the 7 week mark, and didn’t have nearly the leave I would have liked. I am hoping we adapt quickly and are able to really enjoy our expanded family for a bit before needing to go back to work.
Will a scheduled repeat c-section be better as much as everyone says it is
After writing this post, I got so much great feedback and support. Most of the women said how great it was to know what was going to happen and when it would occur. I am definitely liking knowing when I’ll be leaving work, but am still struggling with the fact that I won’t be able to pick up Grant for a solid chunk of time. I am quite interested to see what my experience will be the 2nd time around with a c-section that is planned rather than emergent.
I am anxious to see what really happens in the coming weeks and months with a new addition to the family, and how thoughts might change looking back to now!