Before any big life event, people tend to give loads of advice. Whether you are going off to college, starting your first job, or getting married, words of wisdom come at you from all directions. Pregnancy is no different. You have a million tidbits of advice and it is nearly impossible to really know what to pay attention to. The only way to really know is one thing – your baby’s birthday. Here are pieces of advice I really learned to take to heart once Grant was born.
Sleep when the baby sleeps
I am pretty sure everyone told me this and I pretty much just smiled and nodded. Like Nike says, just do it. Who cares if your laundry is piled up, the kitchen is a mess, and you haven’t showered for 48 solid hours. Even 20 minutes of shut eye make a world of difference when you are caring for a newborn. Follow this one for sure!
Wow – this one is way more real no, for sure. You will wake up one day and your baby will be 6 months old. How on Earth does that happen! The milestones are coming like crazy and I still can’t believe it. Grant will be crawling in no time and then we really won’t be able to stop him! My friend Callie told me a little phrase that I really take to heart – the days are long but the years are short. How true this is truly becoming!
Babies don’t need much
Stores make you think otherwise, but in those first few months, you really only need diapers, some onesies, milk (or formula)and a place for your baby to sleep (which ends up being right on you a lot!). There are so many crazy gadgets and items out there retail shops convince you that you have to have. Don’t fall for it. I know babies are pricy, but they don’t have to be THAT expensive. Our parents got a long just fine without wipe warmers, bottle warmers, and 4 different swings.
There is poop
Oh.My.Gosh. – so much more than I ever thought possible! How does a little person produce this much!? And why does it make its way up his back so frequently? One of the many unknown wonders of the world. I was very surprised to find out that breastfed baby poop doesn’t smell. I know plenty of people know this, but I had no idea. I can say it was a very pleasant surprise!
Don’t go crazy buying clothes
This is definitely a big one. I am pretty sure Grant cycles through about 10 outfits. He wears them, they get washed, and then put on the top of the pile in his drawer. Then, the cycle continues. I put away all of his 3 month clothes last weekend, and there were so many outfits he had worn just once or not at all. If you have the urge to buy your little one clothes before he or she arrives, just wait! Generous friends will take care of that for you. People just can’t help buying adorable things for babies. It’s like a reflex for women
Being a mom is tough
I think you hear people say this, but it really doesn’t sink in until you have that little baby in your arms. Not only do you need to spend time with your baby, but you go to work, cook dinner, clean, spend time with your husband, play with the dog – and the list goes on and on and on. There will be about a million times when you wonder if you are doing this so called mom thing right. The beauty of it is that there are so many different ways to raise a child. As long as you raising them in a loving, caring home, you can’t ask for anything else.
Go easy on the visitors
Ok, so this one I didn’t hear from anyone, but it is something I definitely will take into account for #2. Everyone is so excited to meet your new addition and you feel like you have to let everyone come as soon as they can get there. Give yourself some time in between guests. If some people don’t make it until the baby is a month old – that’s ok. With the lack of sleep and the stimulation overload, visitor after visitor can be pretty exhausting. When they do come and visit, don’t be afraid to ask for some help from them. Get them to take your dog on a quick walk or have them put your clothes from the washer to the dryer. They’ll be happy to help you – really.
This is the easiest trap to fall into, and the greatest advice to receive. Every baby hits each milestone at a different time and pace. Don’t worry if your little one isn’t crawling at the same time as your niece did or didn’t get teeth when your Facebook friend’s kid did. It doesn’t matter. Your baby will reach each and every milestone when he or she is ready. If you really are worried about it, call your pediatrician and ask them about it – stay off all the crazy message boards out there.