Well, I made it through my first few days back to work after maternity leave. I was able to start back working on a Wednesday, so I could ease back into working. I must say, I highly recommend it! Whether you go back on a part time basis that first week, or just start mid-week like I did, I really think it makes a difference. Jumping in full force right away isn’t exactly fun, so easing in is the way to go!
Luckily, returning to working full time isn’t nearly as difficult, from an emotional standpoint, after having a second child. When I started working after Grant was born, I went back when he was only 7 weeks old. I was starting a new job and the offer was either good right then, or never. We needed the cash flow, so I opted to start the job. It was the most whirlwind couple of weeks. I interviewed on a Friday morning, accepted the job Friday afternoon, and then started a full week later. We had to find childcare and make all sorts of arrangements. It was stressful to say the least.
I walked into a job where I knew no one. I had no friends there yet and I really didn’t want to be there. I’m pretty sure I almost quit about 5 times in the first month. I missed my little baby at home and just didn’t want to miss anything.
Luckily, we got into a groove and it just became the new normal. My mom and mother-in-law watched Grant so things were pretty seem less. I started to really like the job and people I was working with, so being a working mom didn’t totally suck.
Fast forward 2.5 years later, and I’m at it again. This time, it’s a lot different. I was able to take 12 weeks off instead of 7, which was amazing. I feel like I was mentally and physically ready to be back at the office. I compare it to the first day of school. You’ve been off all summer without a schedule, so the wake ups are tough. You want to go back and see your friends, but the work that goes with it all is less than exciting. Sure, a few more months would have been great, but I’m thankful to have had any time at all. I know there are plenty of moms who don’t get that privilege.
I also know that being away from my kids is not going to damage the relationship I have with them. I truly thought leaving Grant that he would end up loving his grandparents more than me. Don’t get me wrong – I wanted him to be crazy about them too, but I selfishly wanted to be his #1. I definitely don’t need to worry about that. Coming hime from work, his eyes lit up every single day. They still do when I pick him up from school. It will be no different with Davis. The bond between a momma and her kiddos is unlike any other. No one can replace or replicate that – that I know for certain.
Now that I’m back, I just have to figure out the whole schedule part of it all because wow, it’s a ton of work. I did a much better job food prepping yesterday for the week ahead so hopefully we will not be eating out as much as last week.
So ya, I guess that was all a long winded version of life is good around here. There will be plenty of bumps along the way I’m sure – kids getting sick, crazy schedules, etc. – but everything will be a-ok!